Fearing Failure = Fail
Usain Bolt did it the same way.
If you are so afraid of failing that you never try, you’ll never learn to succeed. Success doesn’t come instantaneously. Behind every success is a series of failures.The Real Truth about Success: What the Top 1% Do Differently, Why They Won’t Tell You, and How You Can Do It Anyway!
I remember many years ago reading a book by Rick Warren, pastor of one of America’s largest churches (Saddleback Valley Community Church). It was about the launch of the church. It was thorough and very readable.
Not frustrating because he had succeeded, but frustrating because I wanted to read about the things he had tried and failed at. I wanted to know what the failures were because if you only try those things that you know will succeed you typically won’t succeed.
Our first two years living in Taiwan we were full time language students learning Mandarin. It was an amazing experience. I was in my early 30s, and not at all convinced I would be able to learn to speak a difficult tonal language.
Perhaps it was the excellent total immersion instruction we had (thanks Mrs. Lu!) that led to our success, but I think it had more to do with a realization that we had that if we failed to try we would simply fail.
Which leads me to the overall point of this post.
When we so fear failure that we don’t act or sit on the sidelines or fail to leap into the unknown, we actually fail. Real failure is not not succeeding. Real failure is never trying.
4 Ways To Beat Failure
The place to beat failure begins in our minds, proceeds through our self-talk, and ends with some type of effort, regardless of the outcome.
1. In Your Mind – I have a friend who used to chide me for “projecting future wreckage”. He is right. The place to defeat failure starts in our minds. Proverbs 23:7 says: “As a man thinks, so he is”. It starts between the ears. Don’t set fear of failing at so high a place that it defeats you before you start.Overcome Fear of Failure
2. Watch your self-talk. What you say can hurt you, including what you say to yourself. Be positive. Think about the best possible outcome. You can reach great goals by not letting your self-talk turn negative.
3. Launch. Go Do. The famous philosopher Yoda said: “Do or do not. There is no try”. Get started. If you wait for perfection, you’ll end life waiting.Yoda: Bring You Wisdom, I Will (Star Wars (Chronicle))
4. Reflect and improve. It is a rare feat to succeed in the first effort. But the effort itself prepares us for future success. Once you start (once you “do”), seek feedback, reflect on it, learn from it, and adjust as needed. If we try and don’t succeed, we can try again.
But if we never try, we never succeed. We only fail.
What will it be for you?
Will you live life on the sidelines, waiting for the indication of absolute success before you make an effort? If that’s you, don’t expect much success.The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
Or will you launch out with all you have, seeking to soar above the field crowded with those who never try?
What have you “failed” at that lead to a success? What are you now “failing” at that will lead to future success?