Amazon ImageFor what ever reason, people have come to this blog in response to stress. I don’t understand why. I’m not a counselor. I don’t pretend to have all the answers.

Heck, some times I wonder what any of the answers might even be.

But I do know this: there are some things in life that cause us stress. May be they don’t cause you stress, but they cause someone you know stress.

So lets look at a few things that lead to stress in life.


I remember when my wife and I had not yet married.  We were in a pre-marital counseling group.  The leaders said that the biggest cause of fights among married couples was money.

I think they were right.  Thankfully, my wife and I don’t often argue about money, but that is not to say that money hasn’t caused stress for us at times.

When we changed jobs (see below), we had a year or so where we really didn’t have much steady income.  It was a stressful time.

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This is one we know too much about.

When you change where you live, whether it is across the nation, across an ocean or across the street, you have just smacked up against a major stressor.

Moving rips up all the things that have been familiar, your habits, your patterns.  That causes a great deal of stress until you adjust to your new location.

What makes this even more complicated is that families experience stress in different times and to different degrees.  So while you might be doing fine with your cross country move, your child might not.  Don’t be surprised if your family members stress at different times over a move.

Job Loss

Just today I heard about a friend, a well educated friend, who lost his job.  The family is now facing some very significant stresses.

My wife sagely suggested to his wife that she remember just how much men define themselves by their work.  Women may do that too, but what my wife told our friend’s wife was exactly right.

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Loss of a job can have a huge impact on you.  If you have encountered that kind of stress (I have), don’t be surprised if you get out of sorts.

You may well yell at the kids and kick the dog, but remember that you are not alone.  Unfortunately there are many who have lost their jobs.  I am not suggesting that misery loves company, but I am suggesting you can take heart that people do get through the stress of job loss.

What about you?  What causes you stress?